A Mother’s Day Reflection

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Each year, we celebrate Mother’s Day, a day set aside to celebrate the women in our lives who have special meaning to us… the women who have played a significant role in our upbringing, who have loved us dearly, guided us and with whom we feel a very special connection. These women may be our own dear mother, a grandmother, an aunt or big sister motherly figure, or a carer, all of whom have guided us and helped us to grow.

Flowers for Mothers Day
Flowers for Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is also a special day to acknowledge all women who have experienced different or difficult circumstances in life… those who no longer have their mothers, those who have lost their children through different circumstances and are not able to hold or cradle them in their arms.  We also think of women who dearly desire motherhood but are unable to have children yet.  Mother’s Day can, for so many, be a very sad reminder of a loved mother who is no longer with them.

It’s a day to remember with gratitude all the times these women have been a source of strength and guidance and have been there for support when we have needed it… providing us with values to live by and resilience to bounce back when things get difficult.

Motherhood can be difficult and challenging at times. There can be lots to laugh about and lots of tears and sorrow.  We need to be grateful to all mothers everywhere who have come to the aid of others with encouragement, empowerment and strength of character and who have influenced other women, throughout history.

Mother’s Day is a great day to embrace all mothers everywhere, and to encourage all women to be the very best that they can be.

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BUILDING SELF CONFIDENCE IN KIDS

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5 TIPS TO BUILDING SELF CONFIDENCE IN KIDS

How to develop self confidence in your child

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Knowing how to develop self confidence in your child will strengthen their overall development.

Building self confidence in children should be practised using a positive self-esteem parenting approach

How to define self-esteem for kids…

Building self-esteem in children is all about helping kids feel good about themselves… proud of their own achievements. High self-esteem allows kids to gain a greater ability to believe in themselves, to solve problems and become competent.

Confidence building helps kids strengthen their ability to believe in themselves and to solve problems that enables them to feel more competent.

The foundation to a child’s self-esteem is built around strong, loving, warm, environmental relationships. Such an environment is the basis for developing self-confidence and encouraging kids to believe in themselves. This constitutes a more caring, worthwhile, and valued approach to confidence building, leading to strengthening self-esteem in children.

When looking at a child’s self-esteem, remember that all children are so very different. Some children just thrive on challenges and will persist until they succeed. However, this is not necessarily the norm and is not the case in many other children. Many children are more reticent, and shy away from trying new things.

What causes low self-esteem in children?

Low self-esteem in children can be caused by environmental changes, lack of education ……. or parenting and other missed opportunities. A prime example would be the effects of  lockdown due to a pandemic like Covid-19. Another cause might be an over-emphasis on perfection or unrealistic expectations from their guardians. However, knowing how to teach confidence to a child and developing positive self-esteem can gradually overturn low self-esteem in children, through using positive self-esteem strategies .

Parents can use confidence building activities for kids to overcome low self-esteem issues


TIP 1           POSITIVE PARENTING STRENGTHENS SELF WORTH

Building up self-esteem

All children mess up from time to time and a child’s self-esteem can very easily be crushed if he or she is humiliated or if negative language is used. A child’s self-worth can be easily damaged by repeated negative language and this could lead to long term low self-esteem in children. Developing self-esteem in kids is about taking the time to explain quietly to them the situation at hand.

Building self-esteem in a child strengthens their self-worth

It is important to use a more positive parenting approach around language, tone of voice, that doesn’t fuel a child’s anger, resentment, shame or humiliation. Refrain from using the word “NO” or shouting at children, as these words and actions are negative. Replace them with positive words around what they can do, not what they cannot do. Focusing on a child’s efforts and achievements is the best way to positive self-esteem building.

Find reasons to praise a child.

Praise is positive self-esteem building that helps boost a child’s self-image… for example, thanking children for their input or help.

“Thank you for helping me make the cake, I needed your help”

“You made your bed! Well done. I am proud of you”

These statements are positive words that strengthen a child’s sense of self-worth. They feel appreciated and their self-esteem is strengthened.

A positive parenting approach demonstrates empathy and kindness, with clear limits and consistency

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Encouragement is one of the best ways of building self confidence in kids, as it develops good self-esteem

TIP 2           GENTLE ENCOURAGEMENT IS CONFIDENCE BUILDING

Developing self-esteem takes time and by lots of gentle encouragement, trying new and more difficult things, helps kids increase self-confidence.

Every child needs to feel worthwhile and valued.

A child’s good health is centered around their parent’s encouragement to eat healthy foods. A child’s self-esteem should also be centered on building self-confidence by parents. Confidence building needs parents, grandparents, guardians, or teachers to be focused on building up self-esteem with positive encouragement and praise, when deserved or needed. For a child to develop self-esteem, they need positive feedback and encouragement within a caring environment that has their best interests, needs and aspirations in mind.

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TIP 3           WORDS OF AFFIRMATION BUILD A CHILD’S SELF-WORTH OR SELF-IMAGE

From a very young age, children are developing a sense of their own identity, self-awareness, and self-worth. They are watching and learning from their parents, and those around them with regard to their facial expressions, their body language, and their tone of voice. They need to be cared for, loved, and appreciated. When children face new challenges and try new things, they are building self confidence and self-esteem. Every time they overcome these challenges, their self-image is strengthened.

Building self-esteem in kids means acknowledging a child’s self-worth.

Praising them for their efforts helps boost their self-image. A child’s self-value is increased dramatically, and they feel good about themselves. Compliments will affect a child’s self-esteem development. Even the smallest of things will help… parents showing excitement or words of encouragement and praise, enables a child’s self-esteem to grow and they feel proud and happy with their achievements.

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TIP 4           CONFIDENCE BUILDING ACTIVITIES FOR KIDS

Developing positive self-esteem in a child

Board games are excellent confidence building activities for kids.

Increase self confidence in your kids with fun child self-esteem activities.

Introducing new games to children is a good confidence building exercise to strengthen and improve self-esteem in kids.

Self-confidence activities might include board games as they learn strategies… jigsaw puzzles, memory games, skipping with a rope, balancing, and catching a ball are all good self-esteem activities that can provide a confidence boost. Child self-esteem activities strengthen brain function, improve memory, as well as enhance hand-eye coordination.

Building confidence in your child allows them to feel pleased and have more belief in their own achievements when they have overcome something they may have previously found difficult to achieve.

High self-esteem children are far more willing to persist with difficulties or setbacks they may face. Children’s self-esteem levels grow dramatically when they overcome new challenges, no matter how small they might be. They are building self-confidence with every small achievement they overcome. A child’s self-value is given a boost and when they are building self-confidence this helps a child’s sense of self-value


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TIP 5           HELP YOUR CHILD TO DEVELOP A POSITIVE SELF-IMAGE

A child’s self-image is defined by their sense of self-worth, meaning that if their self-value is low, they may need a confidence boost.

When children have a lack of confidence or a negative self-image it’s important to find ways to boost their self-image or their low self-esteem. Finding different ways to help around the home and setting them little tasks they can be involved in, boost their feelings of self-worth, and help them to feel valued and important.

Find chores kids can regularly get involved with.

Engaging children in special activities to improve self-esteem for their age group helps promote a positive self-image. Setting little tasks such as helping wash the car or helping to fold the washing are all tasks that are building self-confidence and a sense of responsibility.

When kids have a positive self-image about themselves, they are far more inclined to take on harder challenges, persist and be successful. Their self-worth and self-image are so closely linked that it’s important children feel good about themselves before they undertake confidence building activities.


KEY POINTS for CONFIDENCE BUILDING

  • Children often compare themselves with others and sometimes failure happens. Confidence building is about allowing kids to fail but encouraging them to always try again and overcome their lack of self-confidence.
  • Focus on a child’s efforts, as perfection and winning is not often possible. This builds resilience and courage.
  • Praise your child’s efforts as this boosts self-worth and a child’s self-esteem
  • A child’s self-esteem is boosted when they are successful after several attempts.
  • Self-esteem enables kids to face new and more difficult challenges.
  • Promote activities to improve self-esteem in kids.

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HOW TO DESIGN THE PERFECT PLAY ROOM

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A kids play area needs to be a multi-functional play room that’s cosy, colorful and a play space that kids will love to be in.

Indoor places for kids

A well-designed playroom (that’s a special kids play area) needs to be a multi-functional play space with an emphasis on child skills development.

A child needs an indoor play area where they feel safe and free to explore… where they can be creative and express themselves by trying new things. The perfect modern playroom is free from clutter and old worn-out toys and furniture.

Kids play places

The home play area needs to include educational toys for kids, learning toys and soft play equipment that is both fun and safe to play on.

The indoor play space can be a special kids play zone where there are lots of learning toys for toddlers, encouraging various indoor children’s activities… improving a child’s skills development, especially fine motor skills in infants.  Early learning toys are essential for a child’s mental and physical development.

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INDOOR PLAY PLACES

Indoor play places need to include an enjoyable happy play space that encourages kids to explore, read books, paint, and draw. A well-designed playroom needs to help develop a child’s imagination and encourage creative skill building.

It also needs to stimulate and strengthen a child’s thought processes, to ultimately expand their knowledge and understanding of why and how things work. A well-designed playroom prompts kids to expand their abilities, as well as promoting or strengthening their thought processes.

THE MODERN PLAYROOM

Perhaps the old playroom needs a fresh coat of paint and some new and up to date furniture with an emphasis on educational toys and skill development.  The ideal playroom environment stimulates a child’s inquiring mind to solve problems through exploration and play. The modern playroom needs to help develop the fine motor skills in infants and older children, to extend themselves through play.

The playing room needs to help develop a child’s creative skills through play, enabling them to learn about color, texture, balance, shape, and sound, helping kids to develop organization skills and stretch their imagination.


Setting up Indoor Places for kids

Indoor places for kids need to allow them to experiment and develop their imagination.

A soft play area is important in a kids play space, where kids can listen to music or experiment and develop their imagination by building a tee-pee tent or an indoor cubby house… or cuddle up with cushions and rest a while, sleep or read a favourite book.

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Indoor places for kids might include an under-stairs playroom.  Another fun playroom feature might be a kids’ jumping place or be set up as a fun kids indoor playground, using wallpaper trees with cushions for rocks to climb over. You could create an imaginary kids playground jungle using soft play toy animals.  Or you could set up a special playroom as a kids indoor park, with wallpaper trees and indoor climbing frame.

Child skills development

Fun play places need to stretch a child’s imagination with varying stimuli to grow and develop their newly emerging thought processes, increasing their learning skills and independence.

Social development for children

Social development for children is important and safe places for kids to play with friends help to develop their emotional and social skills. Why not invite a few of your child’s friends over to also enjoy your child’s playroom?

THE PERFECT PLAY ROOM

How to Modernize your Play Room

What do children need?

We need to get back to basics. A child needs stimulation by using color, sound, feel, shape, texture, patterns and taste. Creativity thought patterns can be stimulated using music, words, environment and the exploration of many other areas.

It’s important to create a safe room where children can sit, stand, jump, lie down, crawl and feel free, whilst doing an activity. They need a designated room or area that is both creative and changeable… a room to play, express themselves, relax, read books and explore different experiences. It needs to be a totally technology free zone.

It needs to be a dual-purpose room. You need good design with both space, functionality, color and different zoned areas. These zoned areas are distinguished by colorful floor mats, seating areas, activity and relaxing areas, both stimulating and functional.

Discovery areas need color, texture, pin-up board areas and storage for books, games, pens and paper, instruments, soft toys and a chalk board.


7 Features of a Modern Child’s Play Area

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1 An Open-Plan kids play area needs to be light and airy and not overcrowded.

2 The perfect play room needs to be a multi-functional safe play space.  It needs to be easily accessible, according to a child’s height, to encourage indoor play for kids. And it should provide for different places for kids to play, i.e., different kids play zones that are very flexible for play and relaxation.

3 Kids need to develop organization skills to keep the play room tidy.  Suitable storage in a play room is essential for organizing all the educational toys, books, toys, soft toys, and paints.  Colorful baskets or clear buckets with labels are a great way to store the different indoor children’s activities, learning toys and soft play equipment.  Use either clear buckets or colorful baskets that fit in the storage unit to separate the different indoor children’s activities and games.  

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4 A kids play zone needs child-safe tables and chairs to use as a work space.  It also needs a chalk board or pin-up board or easel for kids to create or paint in the indoor play area.

5 The indoor play space needs to include the all-important soft play area by utilising colorful rugs, cushions, pillows, and soft throws to create a cosy play room where kids can rest, read, or snuggle up with lots of soft play toys and perhaps go to sleep.

6 Rotate educational toys.  Do not have too many toys in the play area.

7 For child skill development, the kids’ play places need to be enjoyable, colorful and constitute a fun indoor play space to be in.


A child needs an area where they can feel safe and free to explore their most creative side and express themselves freely. It needs to be an environment where it is fun, exciting and stimulating. Creativity can so often be stunted by merely sitting watching television, computers or other devices where their whole being is not being stimulated.


The essentials –

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 A light and airy room

 A functional storage space

A colorful mat, cushions and soft bean bag

A small table and two chairs

 A wall for a pin up board


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